Don’t Worry About Being Judged. Worry About Your Budget!

I don’t have time to be worried about being judged. 

I have worked my entire adult life to get away from the judgment.  I know what some of you are going to say.

‘Someone is always going to be judging you. Look at you, man. You’ve started a blog; you’re putting yourself out there; you’re going to get judged. It’s almost like you’re asking for it.’ 

This is true! There are going to be people out there who are going to have negative things to say about anything and maybe even everything someone else is doing. The difference? I am not acknowledging these people and, in this blog, and all my other blogs, I’m not talking to these people.

I am talking to you. 

Yes you, looking at the screen.  If you have ever been judged because of your sex, religion, color of your skin, looks, or anything else, I am specifically talking to you.  If you have ever been held back in your life because someone doesn’t like the way you talk, the way you look, or just you standing there being you, I am talking to you.

You don’t have to be defeated. 

You don’t have to take it.  At least not forever.  It is not your destiny to live out your life suffering through any type of abuse.  I know you are scared to make a change.  I know you are scared to make a move from your “comfortable life” to go through a transformation.

What I do want you to know is that you are entitled to be defiant and excruciatingly selective about the people you surround yourself with. 

I am not saying you want to surround yourself with people who will just say yes to you.  You can surround yourself with people who will lift you up and call you out on your bullshit when you need to be called out, but they do it in a loving way.  They have earned that permission.

The majority of your time does not have to be spent in a workplace that you don’t feel alive in. You don’t have to be in a situation where you are in a position to beg a man to give you a promotion that you know you deserve.

Instead of getting so upset about a situation because you feel stuck – MAKE A MOVE.  It doesn’t have to involve something as dramatic as you going into an immense amount of debt to go back to school to change your situation. I’m talking about something as simple as start working on a budget. If you already have a budget, maybe it needs to be revised.

Did you know you can create passive income today?  I am serious when I say you can save enough money to comfortably make a career change that will not affect your family one bit. Here’s what I would tell you to do: sit down, make a plan, and work out a budgeting system to figure out what your number is.

How much do you need to bring in per month to take care of your needs?  If you have debt, how much would you need to pay off your debt?  What if you also started reducing expenses a bit to have some more money?

What does your number look like now? 

What if you started living your life as if you made a career change to a lesser paying job and started investing the difference?  You literally could save up enough money to pay yourself the difference in pay or you can you use that extra money to give yourself a pay increase.  You don’t have to beg someone for the pay increase – you can give it to yourself.

When you are working in an arena that you love, you will not be worried that Monday is coming.  Your husband will notice a difference, your children will notice a difference and you will attract the kind of people who are thinking beyond today.

You will begin to start thinking about one level up type stuff that will not concern the people who are bothering worrying about your sexual orientation, religion, or the color of your skin.  You will be more concerned about which type of wine will pair better with the mushroom risotto you are having tonight.